Why is personal development so important after having a child?

I have been reading or listening to some form of personal development every day for the last month. The mindset change is apparent after 2-3 days. Things that should make me SO angry just don't matter as much. I try to look on the bright side of everything, but I definitely won't say I'm perfect at this by any means.

Life completely changes all of the time, but I have to say postpartum is one of the worst times mentally for me. I had postpartum depression after I had Connor, and I was so ashamed of it, I just hid it from everyone and suffered alone. Luckily I found many moms who felt the same way and shared their stories, so I became more comfortable sharing my story about postpartum depression.

Just because I am losing weight faster than I did with Connor (the right way mind you), I am still not at 100% when it comes to depression. I get so upset when the crying just doesn't stop from now 2 babies instead of just one. I feel like I'm going crazy when I can't catch a break. It seems like when one stops crying, the other starts. Connor likes to throw tantrums when he's not getting attention, and the fact he is almost 2 and a half and not talking very much doesn't seem to help. Luckily Mark is good with tag teaming, so we usually can calm them both down eventually.

Twirling, believe it or not, has been a huge source of sanity for me. I LOVE teaching it. It's so great when your student comes back after a week and shows you a new trick or ability.

Bringing it all back into why personal development is so important - without it, I would undoubtedly assume the world was against me. I have completely changed my mindset. I have routines each day. I realize how lucky I am for everything I have in life. I never thought I would be anything if I didn't have my comfy little job in Corporate America, and now I cannot imagine ever going back to that life. I see a real future in the things I am doing. Until Mark and I both listened to a Periscope broadcast by Chalene Johnson, I never realized he actually supported me in what I pursue.

Tomorrow I start my first real course in personal development (meaning I am paying for it knowing I'll get a huge return for the value of the course). I can't wait to come back to these posts one day knowing that I persevered and had the mindset that I would do well. My main goal in life is to inspire people to be better than they were yesterday. Whether it's fitness, personal life, or even baton twirling. When others succeed, I am beyond thrilled and happy for them. I like being behind the scenes and just guiding people to where they need to go.

Six weeks and Go!

My doctor gave me the go ahead to workout. Luckily 6 weeks postpartum fell on a Monday which is the best day to begin a workout program (in my opinion). I stuck to the meal plan perfectly for 9 days! The tenth day I ate sushi, and it was the first time I had sushi in over a year. That really wasn't the "cheat" though. The cheat was the frozen yogurt I had. However, being conscious of sticking to the meal plan and NOT going no crazy, I filled it up a about halfway. I even added candy to it (because let's be honest, gummy bears and ice cream are so freaking good!!). This is what I love about this "diet" program. It's teaching me how to eat correctly. It's not telling me I can't eat certain things, but it does allow me to eat things in moderation that aren't great for me.

I worked out all but 1 or 2 days during the 21 Days. I always feel like there isn't a huge difference, but then come the pictures. If you take anything away from this, make sure you measure yourself and take pictures! The scale does such a disservice to us. If we don't see the number move, we assume the worst. We don't notice the newly formed muscle that is in our arms, the better posture we have, the energy that seemed to have come from nowhere as we pick up our kids and twirl them around. 

I finished the first round of 21 Day Fix and lost more weight in 3 weeks than I did in the 3 months postpartum with Connor when I had a personal trainer and went to the gym at least 3 times a week. I felt great about myself for all the hard work. I even placed 3rd out of 50 contestants in a transformation contest. 

All this being said, even if you only lose a couple pounds or don't win anything in any type of weight loss contest, keep in mind it will take time to bounce back. I have a pretty optimistic view on where I'll be in a few months, but it doesn't mean I haven't looked at a recent video or picture of myself and completely bawled my eyes out into the shoulder of a very confused husband. 

"But you're doing so great. Why are you crying?" Or the dreaded obvious, well meaning piece of advice that I inevitably hear from most of my friends or family, "Remember you just had a baby 2 months ago." 

No, I remember that part accurately. I just don't like myself this way, and although I know there are unsafe ways to lose the weight faster, I'm continuing on this route. I want a lifestyle change. I want to work hard for one period of time and then maintain. I have tried the quick fixes all my life, and it always comes back to the roller coaster weight loss and weight gain of the scale. 

Overall I am doing pretty well. I just have milestones to hit, so it helps knowing I have goals to hit. I guarantee I'll have more breakdowns, but with diet and exercise, I don't dread the day. I'm motivated to get dressed. I even get Connor dressed so I can make my #workingoutwithatoddler videos. That kid spent most of his life in a diaper and nothing else. 

So next month I am trying something new. I am making a meal plan for my participants for my free challenge. It will be 5 days and that's all we're focusing on for those 5 days. Exercise if you want, but I just remind people, "If your diet is out of whack, exercise won't do much if you're goal is losing weight." 

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